I'm actually not against them. I've even been a Carebear myself, on quite a few occasions. But let me clarify what those occasions were...
My occasional Carebear status has been the result of non-PVP activities in Empire, lowsec and even 0.0 space. That's about the extent of it.
So no, I'm not against Carebears. What I'm really against are those who whinge and complain and cry about how everyone's out to get them or how unfair the game is because they can't get their way.
Even PVP professionals often fall into this category, and they come up with all kinds of grandiose ideas about how they want the game to change to suit them. In their head it all makes sense - if the game changed in the ways they think it should, then they'd die less often!
So whether you're a Carebear or a PVPer, I don't really care what you do or how you do it. What I DO care about is how much you whinge when something doesn't go your way, and you begin campaigning to change the game to suit your sensitivities. Or you just whinge a lot about how it needs to change, but you don't actually do anything constructive to help make it happen...
It's really simple - if you want the game to change to suit you, how about you go find another game to play, as this one is obviously not for you. Stop whinging to us about how much hardship you're in because someone has used the game mechanics or features to screw you over.
They haven't. They've just played the game according to how it's meant to be played. If you don't like it - stop playing.
Yes, I know - I'm having a whinge. I feel like I'm 'campaigning' to stop whinging. It's probably a useless exercise...
However, me whinging doesn't make me a Carebear - it just means I'm really annoyed about those people that want to change the game to suit themselves.
I know that there are things that may need changing about the game. Use the relevant forums to present good reasons and discussions on why these things need to change and how the changes might even be integrated, rather than "I got killed and I couldn't do anything about it, therefore it needs to change!"
To help you on your way to becoming less of a whinger, I'd like to present a very old poem I found. I've taken the liberty to edit it in a way that reflects our modern times.
Please enjoy - and stop your whinging!
DESIDERATAPrint it out and hang it in your pod where you can see it at all times.
Go placidly amid the vastness of space,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all pod-pilots.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull, the ignorant, and the Carebears;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons who smacktalk in Local;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser pilots than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the galaxy is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the veterans,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture your skills to shield-tank you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt Eve Online is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with the Gods,
whatever you conceive Them to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the violent confusion of death and new clones,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful galaxy.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Be cheerful - strive to be happy.